Why do people insist that Friendster is an acceptable form of communication?
I admit, I jumped on the Friendster bandwagon... a year ago. Since then, I have been able to get in touch with long lost friends (even back from middle school) and stay in touch with those "aquaintances" I don't talk to regularly. It's GREAT for that.
But recently it has come to my attention that Friendster is being abused. It is confusing and frustrating people I know and love. Therefore, I propose to introduce the Rules of Friendster.
First, let's establish the forms of communication you may have available to you and someone else.
1) You know their phone number
2) You know their e-mail
3) You know their screen name
4) You know where they live
Acceptable uses of Friendster:
You don't know number 1, 2, 3 OR 4 but you did know them at some point in your life. Great! Use Friendster to get in touch with past friends. Wonderful. But be prepared for a long wait. By now, I don't sit there refreshing my Friendster page anymore and I don't even check on a regular basis so if you want to contact me sometime this MONTH, I still suggest something other than Friendster.
You only know number 4. Then you can use Friendster. Don't just show up at my doorstep. This is not Say Anything and you are definately not John Cusack. And chances are that if you know where someone lives, you probably know 1, 2, or 3 and at the very least, know a mutual friend in real life.
Unacceptable uses of Friendster:
You don't know 1, 2, 3, OR 4, plus you have like 20 degrees of separation between you and that person. True life Friendster message: "Hi. My name is Stranger McWeirdo. Are you Korean? I am Korean. I just moved here. You look nice. Maybe you can show me around San Diego and teach me English?" (my own emphasis) This is creepy. This is not going to work in real life. Why the hell does he think sending it via the interweb will all of a sudden make me want him? No, you are still Stranger McWeirdo, mmmkay?
You know 1, 2, or 3 (or any combination of two of these). Contact them through one of these! Even IMing is better than Friendster.
You know 1, 2, 3 AND 4. If you know all four things, please for the sake of all things decent about human relationships, contact them in some other way than Friendster. Yes, in this day and age, even IMing is better.
And now, the reason why I started this post:
If you know 1, 2, 3 AND 4 PLUS you just talked to them like a week ago and yet you insist on using Friendster to communicate weird mixed messages, you are hereby dubbed a Freak of Nature and I will cease to acknowledge you as a respectable person. I only hear about guys (yes, more than one guy) doing this, so if it's a guy thing... grow some balls already! If you are a girl doing this, ask a friend of yours to bitchslap you. I am used to mixed messages via phone, email, and even IM. But if you proceed to also use Friendster to fuck with my head, consider yourself Friendster unfriendly and you will not be getting Some.
End rant.
PS - I am already bracing myself for a million Friendster messages now. Haha, yes, very funny.